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The Truth, The Reality, and The Perception

I am a FAA certified Airline Transport Pilot, and also a Certified Flight Instructor. For years I have taught new Flight Instructor applicants. And to be a Flight Instructor, among all other requirements, one is that you have to pass a written and oral examination on Fundamental of Instruction, or FOI. FOI is precisely some basics of human psychology applicable to any teaching and learning event.

One of the subject areas taught and emphasized in the FOI is called the learning process. How humans learn. And one of the key factors in human learning behavior is perception. How we perceive things. For example, a child growing up would not know what “hot” is unless he in fact touches something that is hot, and we as parents tell him, “Hot!”. Now he knows what hot is. His perception of “hot” in his mind has a meaning now, which was derived from an experience, and was reinforced by the parent.

The Perception of hot in the above example has now become the Truth and Reality in the child’s brain. Probably forever. Later on he will learn the the relative terms like hotter, hottest, extremely hot, warm etc.

Here, read this story now, and then I can explain the point that I am trying to make:

The Truth, Reality and Perception of a Camel

Camels were, and still are one of the most commonly used modes of transportation in the greatest deserts of the world. Convoys of camels are used by traders in the local commerce to move goods around from place to place.

This story is about one such camel and his jockey (rider). They were a part of this convoy, travelling, when a sandstorm hit them without any warning. The convoy leader ordered everyone to stop and camp out for the night. And a part of the camping out process is that every jockey pulls out a stake, buries it in the sand, and then ties up his camel with a rope, one end to the stake and the other around the camels neck.

This jockey realized that he forgot to bring the stake and rope set for his camel. He is sitting, cursing his luck out, not knowing what to do, when the convoy leader (he is the leader for a reason) comes over and asks him what was going on. The jockey briefed him on the situation at hand; no rope, no stake, and no ideas.

The convoy leader told him not to worry and simply carry out the process with an imaginary stake, imaginary rope, and the imaginary burying, and the imaginary tying the rope around the camel’s neck. I am sure you get the point.

The jockey does exactly as was told, and moved on with the rest of the chorus of camping out and sleeping off the sandstorm. Guess what! In the morning the camel was found sitting right next to that imaginary stake, waiting for the next set of orders.

Moral of the Story

The camels learning process from his experiences in his life were as follows:

“Every time my master performs this act (staking and tying), the result is that I can’t go anywhere. I have tried otherwise while growing up, but now for years I know this. So I don’t even try. My perceptions have given me a meaning, which are my Truth.”

My Point

If you ask the camel, “Were you tied up that night?”, I am sure his answer would be, “Yes I was”. Would the camel be telling you the Truth? Ha!

We have heard that Truth is Truth. And nothing can change the Truth. The Truth is an absolute statement. I say that the Truth is again nothing but a perception, or a result of a perception. The camel’s truth is that he was tied up. I am sure he will have no problem even going under oath and solemnly declare that he was in fact tied up that night. How about the jockey’s truth? He probably would smirk, or wink, and tell you that no, the camel was not tied up that night.

Truth is perception. The way one sees things from his or her point of view. So maybe, we can all agree to this:

Truth is a meaningful insight as a result of our past experiences, and nothing but perception.

How about the Reality though?

Now, let’s ask the question, “What was the reality like that night?”

Your comments?

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Who wants Feminists to Dictate?

We all have heard about the feminist movement of the day. And we all may have different opinion about their work and beliefs. I have mine: The truth is that although those in the leadership of the feminist movement, such as now at present time, do not represent anything close to the majority of women, they presumptively purport to represent their interests. “Their” interests are not the interests of the American female, but rather the political agenda of the feminist leadership, which is decidedly leftist.

These feminists had been conditioned to accept the whole feminist ideology, which went way beyond equal opportunity. The roles defined by nature for men and women had become clouded in their minds. This led to all kinds of confusion, suspicion, and distrust between the sexes.

Men and women eventually just didn’t know how to function around each other. It degenerated to the point that men would wonder if they should open a car door for a woman. The confusion was running rampant. Chivalry had become synonymous with male chauvinism. Roles, defined by nature, were now obliterated and everybody was running around trying to be what they thought they should be, which was certainly everything but themselves. For a while it became sensitive to cry. It was a beautiful thing. After a few years of that, women started complaining that there were no real men anymore, so men stopped crying. It wasn’t pretty. The feminist leadership vowed revenge and retreated to plot a new destructive and divisive strategy.

It’s almost as if America went through its own Cultural Revolution in the 1970s and early 1980s. Everything went crazy for about ten years, and only now are we seeing young people who now view those years as somewhat bizarre. But, of course, things aren’t yet completely rational or back to normal. There are plenty of people who want to resurrect and supercharge the feminist Cultural revolution.

Men have not reconciled themselves to all of this. There’s a lot of resentment out there against feminism. It’s being forced on people. Changes that might happen naturally are being shoved down people’s throats. It’s not what most men want. It’s not what most women want. Time magazine reports that 63 percent of American women reject the feminist label. Increasingly, feminist groups are viewed as a fringe element who, because they are incapable of assimilating into mainstream society, are exacting their revenge on it. They are trying to change society to make it conform to them, rather than accept the fact that they are not the mainstream.

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